Affirming your sexual wellness can take many forms. I made the Purple Sex & Love Beyond Your Dreams journal for women with various activities to explore themselves. I wanted to help you with personal growth on your purple sex journey by including affirmations and encouraging customized ones. Affirmations can empower women in their sexual wellness…
Drawing free-form mandala art can be a powerful tool for exploring your sexual wellness. It is an element that I included in the Purple Sex & Love Beyond Your Dreams: A Women’s Guided Journal to Explore Your Sexual Self. It facilitates investigating nine topics of sexuality. Sexual self-exploration or discovery work sits in sensuality, self-intimacy,…
Many people wonder how to journal to improve their sexuality. As I created a journal template to help women find their own path, I began my purple sex journey. That voyage helped me see that journaling is a path to discovering your sexual self. For each of us, that journey is to find our unique…
If you know anything about me, you know purple is my color. I look for symbols, meanings, and representations of the things I have around me. I wanted a flower to represent my ideas about purple sex. And the purple hydrangea made the cut. So, let’s see how a purple hydrangea can help you grow…
Yesterday, my son walked into my office and asked me what I was doing. “I’m working,” I said. “But it’s Saturday.” The disbelief dripped off his words. “I know, and I blast purple passion as the book launch gets real.” As a writer, I can’t wait to share this sexual wellness tool. As a reader,…
Another writer’s retreat in the books and we made memories. Sometimes it takes a little time for it to gel. I had hoped to post this last week, but I was still processing it. So many rich thoughts. Some many wonderful connections. And so many words. And sitting in the heart of it all was…
A magic elixir is produced when writers get together. It has a texture like cotton candy. A smell like an English garden in spring or caramel over the sea salt. A look like a Monet painting, hazy with all our energy. A taste of tequila aged in oak barrels. A sound like a guitar riff…
We are coming into the home stretch for closing out May, our sexual self-care month. The 31-day challenge presented bite-size pieces for you to reclaim your sexual self in time. This is my fourth post on the topic, and I hope it provides MITE. Motivation. Information. Transformation. And Education. We can step into our fullest…
Empowering self-pleasure can have unintended consequences. If you took the time to focus on the challenge, perhaps you discovered new delights. If it was difficult to move through the challenge, maybe it highlighted a dilemma. Either way-you got new information that you can act on in the future. Even though we are halfway through the…
Welcome back to Celebrating Your Sensual Self. Week one is officially over. If this is your first visit to May’s Self-Pleasure Challenge, welcome to week two, May 7-13. We started last week with information about setting out May’s Pleasure Event Challenge, the ways to maximize your pleasure challenge, and outlining what the challenge is about. …
Welcome to May’s Monthly Self-Pleasure Challenge Week One, May 1-6 Self-Pleasure to know thyself. Could this be more relevant than for your sexuality? Most folks don’t know their sexual self because our culture, institutions, family, and society send negative messages about understanding ourselves as sexual human beings. I created this sexuality challenge for masturbation month…
What exactly is a character sex coach? A character sex coach is essentially a sex therapist or educator for your characters. They can help you, the author, understand how sexuality fits into your characters’ personalities, motivations, and relationships. Best of all, they guide you in using sexuality to deepen your readers’ connection to your story….
For any starting point on your sexuality, let’s think about structure. I’ve found the best way to approach this personal learning is to use a holistic sex-positive approach focusing on Body. Mind. Heart. Spirit. If you want to become your best sexual self, you need to learn about yourself within the layers of your sexual self….
Before I tell you the ten things that excited me about my year in the sexual work world, I want to say thank you. Thank you to my readers, fans, supporters, those who inspire, and all folks interested in sexual wellness, erotica, and all things sex. I create content for you to better your life…
Are you looking for sexy holiday gifts this season? I’ve read at least seven curated lists, and I found the following items to be interesting. I put them in six categories: Sensuality, Good Vibes, Kinky You, Fun & Games, Artistic Flair, and Philanthropy. Be true to yourself and your relationship as you explore your choices….
Purple Sex Alignment? What is It? Purple sex alignment is both a process and an outcome. If you’re reading, you are already working a shift in your perspective. You are receptive to hearing something new. It’s like when folks realize they want something different in the bedroom, they explore and read about new topics. I’ve…
Why language matters? Welcome to my world of “scenes with sex,” not “sex scenes.” Did you get it? Do you see or know the distinction? If not, welcome to the mind of a retired sex therapist, college professor of human sexuality, and current erotica and erotic romance writer and editor for Rosy. Join me on…
Pleasure and shame are addressed in a recent movie, in two directions. Good Luck to you, Leo Grande is a movie where characters meet at the intersection of intimacy and sexuality. Both know shame and taboo tempers their pleasure choices. Each person highlights the other as they seek pleasure, delete shame, and provide caring. Middle-Aged…
What is a sex conversation starter? Sometimes people just don’t know how to begin a conversation related to sex. That is so understandable. Those conversations are intimate and vulnerable. We don’t exactly learn conversation skills at school or at home, much less about discussing anything with sexual content. Without formal learning, we use what we…
In writing sex, whether in scenes or threaded throughout your story, to get maximum impact, it takes a type of sex education most people never get. As a writer, you may be a natural-born storyteller and have intuited lots of information in your world about your characters. But what if you also used sex information…
My sex search on Google in preparation for my weekly Twitter Spaces Content in The Sexuality Space provided frustration. I wanted to learn what people want to know about sex. I discovered one interesting article by Dr. Chris Fulton: The Most Frequently Searched Sex Questions in the US. I loved her enthusiasm and contrast to…
Many writers cringe at the idea of writing those sexy scenes, but here are five elements to transform your sex writing and give your characters great sex. Most of us have not been educated on sexuality. How could we be good writers or editors of it without that education? I’ve put my sex education and…
Sex conversations? Sex talk? What’s in a word or a phrase? For some, those phrases can stop you in your tracks. When you read “sex talk,” did it pull you back to your young self, who was watching a parent struggle to provide you with needed information? Or were you the parent, rubbing your sweaty…
The Concept of The Sexuality Space Wow. Has it really been a year since I started The Sexuality Space on Twitter Spaces? Yes, it has. The first Wednesday of May in 2021, I launched my inaugural twitter spaces. I remember how the app didn’t work well. I was unable to invite speakers. My first event…
