Social Audio Connects the World Back in May of 2021, I began my Twitter Spaces platform called The Sexuality Space. There, I provide sexuality information and resources. I interview experts, chat with book authors, and have open topical conversations. I showcase sex-positive perspectives. In this episode, I interview Brian McNaught. Brian is one of my…
Sometimes it is hard to admit we are sexual beings with a need for sexual wellness. Our culture, institutions, family, friends have made us feel like we need to hide that part of us. That makes it difficult for us to take time for our sexual self. Frankly, I’ve had enough. Others have subjected my…
I’ve lived with orgasm inequality for my entire life and my forty-five-year professional sexuality career. Back in 1998, Viagra, the little blue pill for erectile dysfunction, hit the market. I remember listening to a sex therapist who had consulted for this product. He talked about the choice they offered him for his work, to be…
I love quotes from people who inspire me. Anais Nin hits me on so many levels.
On the last day of the year, let’s see 2020 in the rearview mirror. Five years ago, Marie Rebelle and Wicked Wednesday hosted my guest post, Tested. It marked the launch of my writing career. I had completed an erotic writing course with Rachel Kramer Bussel, who encouraged our class to hone our writing skills…
Last year this time I was getting ready to attend my second Florida Writers Association Annual Conference. My editor created two presentations and a workshop. I was excited to see her work and experience her magic and catch up with old friends I’d met the year before. An unexpected request occurred over the conference which…
Friday can be a weird day in a writer’s life. It’s catch-up from the week. Organizing. Listening to pressure washers, blowers, and garbage trucks. That’s my Friday anyway. I get focused! But this week it also reminded me why I lead with a big heart. Most of you know Friday is a social media day…
Life gets interrupted with so many things, but we trudge on. Sickness is tricky because it drains you both physically and emotionally. I’m on day 15 and just getting my head above water. I celebrated this Friday alongside my thank you tulips, coffee, and blueberry pie. I threw caution to the wind and enjoyed myself this…
I started my 2018 year-i- review in Florida, wrote more in North Carolina, created the picture in Georgia and finished it at my desk at home. It’s an example of my life this year, all over the place. It’s important for me to look back at where I have come since December 29, 2015, when…
The title of Justin’ Lehmiller’s book, Tell Me What You Want could be found in my world. I spend a lot of time in the sex fantasy world writing, sex-positive literary erotica, it thrilled me when this book came out. As a retired sex therapist who loves sex science, I couldn’t wait to see the results…
It’s almost time. On December 11, 2018, Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 4 releases. What better way to get jazzed than to meet one of the contributors. May I introduce, Tamara Lush. This writer is someone I know in real life!!! See I am fangirling, too. Tamara was tremendously helpful to me at…
A year ago, I celebrated the release of Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 3 and my story contribution, Infused Leather. I would not have guessed that it would be selected as a semi-finalist in the 2018 Florida Writers Association Royal Palm Literary Awards. It was such an exciting year for which I am…
I’m a little behind in my weekly sexuality blog. Usually, when that happens, it is because I’m processing something. So, what exactly is on my mind? It turns out it’s about sex scenes and the crossroads intersection of Dr. J. sex therapist/sex educator with Dr. J. Erotica writer. MY WRITER’S LIFE The last several weeks…
Remember when you were a kid and during the first week back at school you told everyone what you did for summer vacation. That’s how I felt about returning home this summer, but I held onto it for a while, savoring all the goodness I received. For me, this summer’s trip was about location as writer…
It has been one month since I posted a blog. There has been a lot happening in my life. In the first two weeks of February, I prepared for my guests who visited the last two weeks of February. My focus for the first two weeks of March was dedicated to my root canal. I…
Last Saturday night, I took part in a wild interview for Consensually Speaking with Gio. My Sisters in Smut, Mischa Eliot, Oleander Plume shined. And at the end, we all made parting comments. I said, “I have a pleasure platform, and I’m going to use it.” Did I issue an imperative for myself? What did…
I drove through a forest of dense hardwoods, down a two-rut road to reach my destination on the peninsula’s end. The shimmering lake waters greeted me. I pictured my friends, Heather and Darryl sitting inside the cabin working away. They had arrived two hours before me, and as I drove, I felt their writing energy…
“Hi. My name is Dr. J. I am an erotica writer.” Your turn. As an experiment, insert your name and make that statement to someone. Did you hesitate? What was your body response? What was their body response? What did the person say to you? If your experience was like mine, you received an instant…
Two years ago, I attended my first Florida Writers Conference, 2015. I arrived with only an idea of what fiction writing was all about, and I learned so much. This week is the annual Florida Writers Conference 2017, and I’m excited to go. Since I’m a little further down the writing road, it will take on…
This past week had five lovely moments of laughing and learning. 1-My Live-in Editor. Every writer should live with an editor for a while, especially if it’s your favorite. For me, that would be my friend, Heather Whitaker. While she worked on different manuscripts at my dining room table, I experienced her editing process. We…
For two years, much of my life has lived in U-Haul boxes. The month before last, I moved into my new house, and I began to unbox. When I evacuated for Matthew last year, I couldn’t see the things that were in all those boxes, plus I had no idea where anything was located. This…
I’m humming the Rolling Stones tonight. You know the song-You Can’t Always Get What You Want. Let me focus on the next line. “But if you try sometimes, well you might find you get what you need.” I guess I needed change as a theme in my life. Some of you may know I have…
A NON FICTION Selection On Writing. Today, I was unsettled. I walked to clear my head and focus on a new story idea. I didn’t know it was a “walking meditation” until my aunt arrived at my side. I could have been traipsing down the grassy path to the pond of my youth, or the…
As a beginning erotic writer, I am making exciting connections with others in the genre. These authors are wonderfully supportive, kind, and helpful. One of my favorite new writing friends hails from Australia, Adrea Kore. From the other side of my world, her lyrical style and use of metaphor intrigue and move me. I told…
