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Writer’s Retreat Triumph: Wins with Passion, Gumption, and Lots of Words

Another writer’s retreat in the books and we made memories. Sometimes it takes a little time for it to gel. I had hoped to post this last week, but I was still processing it. So many rich thoughts. Some many wonderful connections. And so many words. And sitting in the heart of it all was passion and gumption to grasp those words. Food and Drinks of the Writer’s Retreat Writers need nourishment besides coffee, which flowed freely. We ate and drank well. From Mr. J.’s welcome chicken dish to our new favorite resident chef and bartender’s creations, it covered us...

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The Exuberant Writers Island Retreat Produces a Magic Elixir

A magic elixir is produced when writers get together. It has a texture like cotton candy. A smell like an English garden in spring or caramel over the sea salt. A look like a Monet painting, hazy with all our energy. A taste of tequila aged in oak barrels. A sound like a guitar riff floating through the breeze. These sensations signify the writer magic of this year’s writing retreat. We are all magical ingredients adding to the mix of the retreat. Writer Imagination Creates the Magic Elixir Writer magic is a thing that happens when two or more writers...

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2021 Another Tough Year Living as a Writing Hermit

Another Covid tough year has passed, and I prevailed. In fact, I kept my head down and churned out a lot of content. I also got new jobs which cause new projects for 2022. I’m so grateful to my fans and followers. You make it all worthwhile. What I missed this year was regular hugs and close, intimate conversations with my friends and family. In between Delta and Omicron, I did visit with my NC author friend, Darryl Bollinger, and hosted the phenomenal Mischa Eliot and Heather Whitaker for a writing retreat. I said Bon Voyage to fellow writer and...

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In Conversation with Rose Caraway

In my last post, I shared that I was a new Twitter Spaces Host. This blog post marks my third event. I created a mission statement for my space. My plan is to talk with lots of different people in the world of sexuality. I’m really excited about the new features Twitter has added to Twitter Spaces. When you are on my Twitter feed you can click on the event, see details, to get more information. This is where the scheduling function resides so you can get a thirty-minute reminder before the event starts. You’ll also get a reminder when...

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It’s Official. I’m a Twitter Spaces Host!

Life in 2021 is gearing up. I have some new and wonderful event launching this week. On Wednesday, May 5, 2021 Noon ET I will host my inaugural Twitter Spaces #TheSexualitySpace. I’ve been writing about the journey on Medium. Check out these articles: As an author, I’m afraid I might become a twitter spaces junkie and Look Out Twitter Spaces because my southern drawl with rock your world. Connecting with folks on social media is a fascinating proposition, and here’s a new tool. It’s called Twitter Spaces. When it arrived, I was first intrigued and then disappointed. It was in...

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Dr. J.’s Top Ten Most-Read Erotic Stories of 2020

This year Dr. J.’s Top Ten most-read stories span the life of my blog and represent each year I’ve written. I guess the deep dive for stories had to do with the pandemic. Lots of reading to keep us busy and distract us. When I compared it to the Top Ten List of 2019, I was struck that the 10th and 1st position stories were the same. 10 Truck Sex and The Calendar Man tied for the tenth spot. Truck Sex, a nostalgic revisit of sexual firsts in the truck, clocks in TIED for Number 10. Joy and Bubba reclaim...

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Teaching Authors What I Know About Writing Sex

Last year this time I was getting ready to attend my second Florida Writers Association Annual Conference. My editor created two presentations and a workshop. I was excited to see her work and experience her magic and catch up with old friends I’d met the year before. An unexpected request occurred over the conference which finds me here writing this post. The faculty coordinator asked to create some specific workshops about sex for the group this year. It flattered me and terrified me. This group is not focused on sex per se like other presentations have been. But I said...

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Erotic Anthology Book Release: Chemical [se]X 2

I’m excited to share a book release with wonderful writers. This erotic anthology has been a group publishing effort for Oleander, Mischa and myself, a true labor of love. Thank you to Rachel Kramer Bussel for blurbing our cover! I’m pleased to introduce you to Chemical [se]X 2: just one more.  We hope you enjoy our erotic anthology. Taste the attraction. Again. One hundred percent delicious with zero calories, let yourself be tempted by our chocolate-infused delights. These bite-size erotic treats are guaranteed to satisfy even the most discerning tastes. Best friends become more, beauty is tamed by the beast,...

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Life Interrupted

Life gets interrupted with so many things, but we trudge on. Sickness is tricky because it drains you both physically and emotionally. I’m on day 15 and just getting my head above water. I celebrated this Friday alongside my thank you tulips, coffee, and blueberry pie. I threw caution to the wind and enjoyed myself this morning. Everybody gets sick. It was my turn. That’s a risk of travel, and sharing over the holidays. One I will always accept. This ailment is a doozie. But you know what? Life goes on for this writer even from my day bed. I wrote,...

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Dr. J.’s 2018 Year-in-Review

I started my 2018 year-i- review in Florida, wrote more in North Carolina, created the picture in Georgia and finished it at my desk at home. It’s an example of my life this year, all over the place. It’s important for me to look back at where I have come since December 29, 2015, when I took a deep breath and submitted my first story, “Tested” was a guest post on Wicked Wednesday. Never did I imagine all that would occur in my writing. This reflective journey validates my efforts.   REFLECT AND TAKE STOCK of the year events. I...

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How Do I Put Sex in the Scenes?

I’m a little behind in my weekly sexuality blog. Usually, when that happens, it is because I’m processing something. So, what exactly is on my mind? It turns out it’s about sex scenes and the crossroads intersection of Dr. J. sex therapist/sex educator with Dr. J. Erotica writer. MY WRITER’S LIFE The last several weeks have been busy. When you weren’t looking, here’s what I’ve been doing. Attending and providing conference workshops. Negotiating my next speaking engagements. Facilitating housing for my author friends for the Amelia Island Book Festival in February 2019 and then for my Sisters in Smut in...

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Revisiting My Inspirational Summer Vacation

Remember when you were a kid and during the first week back at school you told everyone what you did for summer vacation. That’s how I felt about returning home this summer, but I held onto it for a while, savoring all the goodness I received. For me, this summer’s trip was about location as writer inspiration. While I didn’t plan the trip, imagine my surprise when my partner laid out all the writer places I would experience. Now Fall has begun and since temperature wise it still feels like summer, I decided to revisit the inspirations of my vacation in the...

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Dr. J.'s News / Fiction

The Shortest of Fiction Stories In Twelve Words

There will be a break this week from the Hiking Story Series. I’m preparing for a vacation and well, you all know it’s hard to get every task completed. I’m headed to cooler weather to some locations where creative people worked and I’m looking forward to sitting in their places and brainstorming new writing ideas. An environment has an impact on me and I’m curious to see where this new energy takes me. Until then, I wanted to share a new project with you all. For the month of June, I began to participate in a new daily writing meme called...

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The #SistersInSmut Convention

My smutty sisters and I did a thing. Actually, we did several things. If you follow me, you know I am, as Mischa Eliot framed it, “in a triad with her and Oleander Plume.” The threesome generates massive energy and smut filled power. And with our triangle, we brewed up a Pleasure Platform, a podcast, and then a home where it can all live. That home is the Sisters in Smut website. But wait, there’s more. And for our crowning glory, we created a Convention. Yes, I said the word. And I know what the word means. The Sisters in...

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Purchase Knob Hike

There are four of us. An accountant who lives with a thriller writer and a lawyer tied to me, the erotica writer. Sounds like an exciting crew, right? Writers connect, and we have. This season, we shared our new houses with each other. We joke that each couple has a beach house and a mountain house. This is my week to experience the creativity of the mountain house. All four of us love the outdoors. For our first official hike in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park, we climbed Purchase Knob. I’ll be writing a short story from this hike,...

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Grit and Persist: Backstage in a Writer’s Life

Most folks never know what goes on behind the life’s curtain of a writer. Here are events that have happened in my life over the last two weeks. Writers by the Sea-My Local FWA Chapter For our March meeting, I shared the stage with Mark Ezra Stokes as we presented The Author’s Digital Footprint. We had collaborated on the topics we would address with the main idea of how writers can get readers to their books. I started my part of the presentation holding a clipboard asking the audience to sign up for my newsletter. I explained that if they signed...

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Fangirling in Fernandina

It has been one month since I posted a blog. There has been a lot happening in my life. In the first two weeks of February, I prepared for my guests who visited the last two weeks of February. My focus for the first two weeks of March was dedicated to my root canal. I will gloss right over that and move on to my discussion. The Amelia Island Book Festival February marked the 17th Annual Amelia Island Book Festival. Adriana Trigiani was the keynote speaker for the Kick-Off Luncheon. David Baldacci introduced her as “his Italian sister,” and the...

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Dr. J.’s Collaborations

I enjoy week’s where I collaborate with other writers. This week I had three such adventures. First, Nick Tanek asked me to suggest authors who would answer questions about BDSM erotica. I looked to my Sister in Smut, Mischa Eliot, and my Wicked Pens Colleague, Nia Farrell for their specific thoughts. What I appreciate about Nick’s perspective is that he works in a supportive community. That is an essential theme for my fellow authors and me. We work to build each other up. Check out what got covered in Nick’s blog this week. Our BDSM Erotica Author Friends by Nicolas...

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Five Takeaways from my Sexuality Week

My 2018 has started out on a roll. Here at the end of the week, I have several new things going on and I wanted to share. Check out the author, Nicholas Tanek‘s work. He and I are Twitter friends. I made a contribution to his blog. THE HEALING POWER OF KINK by Nicholas Tanek I’ve changed my Facebook group to Dr. J.’s Pleasure Platform. Please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/327842347563424/   I will be hosting a LIVE event there next Tuesday. Check it out.                   The lovely Oleander Plume reviewed Best Women’s Erotica...

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My Pleasure Platform

Last Saturday night, I took part in a wild interview for Consensually Speaking with Gio. My Sisters in Smut, Mischa Eliot, Oleander Plume shined. And at the end, we all made parting comments. I said, “I have a pleasure platform, and I’m going to use it.” Did I issue an imperative for myself? What did I mean? How did that fit for us erotica writers? It caused me to reflect on the picture below. I created it several months ago. This idea must have been sitting in my subconscious, but I hadn’t considered it this way. Pleasure Platform Defined At...

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Catch Dr. J. Reading Her Erotica

Last week I was a guest on the Rob and Slim Show. We had thirty minutes of sexy repartee about my sex therapy world, online dating, and being sex-positive. Ending the interview, I read an excerpt from my story “Infused Leather” from Best Women’s Erotica of the Year Volume 3, published by Cleis Press and edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. Take a look at the guys on YouTube while you Listen. Click Here: The Rob and Slim Show Interview with Dr. J.

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Dr. J.’s 2017 Year End Review

I write this post sitting at my childhood dining room table. This month has been a bittersweet time for me. I have lost two family members and supported another during an emergency surgery. Writing has not been my number one focus for December, but I wanted to take this time to make an abbreviated update on what I have accomplished this year. REFLECT AND TAKE STOCK. I always stop and remember December 29, 2015. That was the date my first story went out into the world. It is hard to believe that was only two years ago. In May as...

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Let the Writer’s Retreat Begin

I drove through a forest of dense hardwoods, down a two-rut road to reach my destination on the peninsula’s end. The shimmering lake waters greeted me. I pictured my friends, Heather and Darryl sitting inside the cabin working away. They had arrived two hours before me, and as I drove, I felt their writing energy pulling me along the road. Spending time with friends who no longer are a fifteen-minute drive away is a precious commodity. My heart sang. After a hello break, all heads were down. I opened my computer to begin my writing process. Time is an artificial...

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My Legitimate Seat at the Erotica Table

“Hi. My name is Dr. J. I am an erotica writer.” Your turn. As an experiment, insert your name and make that statement to someone. Did you hesitate? What was your body response? What was their body response? What did the person say to you? If your experience was like mine, you received an instant like or a dislike response, no in-between grey area. This week I have confirmation that I am an erotica writer. My work releases on Tuesday, November 21 in Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 3. Read what my editor, Rachel Kramer Bussel said about...