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The Ultimate Writer’s Playground: The Sexy Brain on Storytelling

A writer’s playground is vast, but the ultimate and last frontier is the sexy brain on storytelling. When I say playground, I want you to think “amusement park” for writers, set up in the brain. What is unique about the brain that these three areas dissect? Sex, storytelling, and play all have brain chemicals in common. The more you know and understand, the more you can tap into this new world to move readers on the connection trail to your characters and story to help them feel the entire process along the way. They each are a journey. You, as...

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FWSG / NonFiction

Love Potions and Brain Chemistry: Decoding the Science of Relationships

The science of relationships is an area where I see authors use personality tests to help them build their characters. I have a test that I like to use because it is based on personality and brain chemistry. It also helps answer the question, do “opposites attract” or do “birds of a feather stick together?” Let’s dive into the work of Dr. Helen Fisher and see what brains have to do with relationships. Helen Fisher’s Personality Model Wouldn’t it be cool if there was a way to understand how some people are attracted to each other, and others are not?...

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FWSG / NonFiction

Raw Heat Lies in the Mechanics of Relational Intimacy

Let’s discuss the mechanics of relational intimacy or a complete relational sexual system. When you write, do you know how to create the relationship? How do you measure the emotion and heat and know where it comes from? You may not even think about the way I described it. But as a sex therapist, I can tell you that individuals negotiate relational sexual systems based on their own sense of self—to be exact, how much ‘self’ a person has. How would you show this in writing? And where does this come through in sex? What Have You Used to Create...

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FWSG / NonFiction

Learn How to Craft Intimacy in Sex with an Emotional Lead

FWSG Blog Post #9 Crafting intimacy in sex is what I believe to be one of the most important things a writer can learn to enrich their stories. I see authors twist themselves up with how to write what I’ll call the picture of sex, which may only be the telling of what’s happening, devoid of the meaning behind it. In fact, the motivation or emotion behind the *want to*, can steal the show. Can intimate closeness trump climax? Well, you can write a climax without it, but when you have all the sticky, wonderful connections of emotion that come...

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FWSG / NonFiction

Fantasy’s Storytelling Role: A New Dimension of Character Interaction

FWSG Blog Post #8 Consider fantasy a gateway to character complexity and a way to unveil the mind’s treasures. When I considered writing The Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Guide, I knew I wanted to include fantasy information. It is an essential topic in writing about sexuality and one not discussed much. I want to introduce you to Justin Lehmiller’s sex research on fantasy so that you can feel confident in using it in your writing. Fantasy Defined First, fantasy occurs while you are awake. It’s the video or pictures you create. Second, these images turn you on. Typically, folks get nervous...

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FWSG / NonFiction

From Taboo to Tool Kit: How to Embrace Your Characters’ Sexual History

#7 FWSG Blog Post Sexual History is one tool that is a frame of reference for writing about sex in scene. It was a true favorite in my therapy practice and in educating students about relationships. It is rich with PEMS components, the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. In fact, it could be called your character’s missing chapter, an unexplored territory of sexual history. From now on, I hope that you will create a dedicated chapter in your Character Bible for sex history. Your full character profile will be complete when you’ve done this. Why Sexual History? Sexual history is...

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FWSG / NonFiction

Break the Silence: How to Talk about Sexuality in Your Stories

#6 FWSG Post Series Many people don’t know how to talk about sexuality in writing. Typically, the focus of sexuality is on the “sex scene,” and I’m on a mission to change that. What if we could learn more about the characters through their sexuality in all scenes? If writers had a structure on which to build sexuality, the characters and the story would have much more connection and depth. We would also understand the meaning of their actions when sex becomes physically close and intimate. To discuss sexuality in your stories, I suggest considering writing about sexuality with respect....

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How PEMS Sexual Intimacy Shapes Your Characters

#5 FWSG Blog Series PEMS Sexual Intimacy is this week’s topic in the Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Blog Series. If this is your first read in the series I’m highlighting content from my upcoming release, The Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Guide, you can look here. I want to introduce you and help you understand the complex interplay of PEMS in sexual intimacy, its implications for personal growth and storytelling, and practical advice on weaving these elements into compelling character narratives. It begins by considering the bigger picture of sexuality for your characters, understanding how sexuality is an integral part of your story,...

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FWSG / NonFiction

How to Move from Worrying about Writing Sex to Enjoying It

#4 In the FWSG Series Did the phrase “writing sex” elicit a specific response inside you? For most writers, it does. Excitement, dread, denial. It’s not the same for everyone because of you, the person. Your experience in the world and your belief systems add to this thinking. Ask yourself: How do you feel about writing sex? What do you know about sex to write about it? Let’s explore what this is about and how to lessen the worry and enhance the enjoyment of writing. Person of the Writer In Writing Sex – Own Where You Are Most writers I...

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Fiction Writers: What If Sexuality Can Enhance Deeper Storytelling?

#3 in the FWSG Series Fiction Writers: Can you imagine a world where sexuality is the gateway to deeper storytelling? Welcome to your new reality. Anyone who writes fiction can gain helpful information for their story with The Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Guide: Sex—It’s More Than a Scene. It can be one more tool in your toolbox to develop rich characters and your story. When I first started this project, I thought that only erotica or romance authors could use a new template and paradigm for writing about sex. The more I talked to other authors, the more I realized from...

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FWSG / NonFiction

How I Jumped into Nonfiction: The Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Guide

# 2 in the FWSG Series Where does nonfiction fit into a writing career? I received many tidbits of wisdom, but the one that stuck was that a nonfiction book was like a business card. It is a calling card that highlights your wares. The idea wiggled around in my head, and after Darryl Bollinger’s comments on helping authors write about sex, I started working on mine, with its last title, The Fiction Writer’s Sexuality Guide: Sex—It’s More Than a Scene. Where the Nonfiction Writing Process Began. Early in my writing career, I met Judith Briles of The Book Shepherd....

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Boosting Your Writing Energy: The Power of Collaboration and Support

#1 in the FWSG Series I feel a familiar, historic writing energy as the new year begins. Specifically, academic dissertation energy. One’s dissertation is a research piece where you either confirm someone else’s research or bring forward a new idea. You may have found your niche if your work brings something new forward. If you don’t know what it’s like to write a dissertation, it’s hard. The process is complex. Long and drawn out. It follows tedious rules. It goes through committees that approve, suggest, or deny movement forward. It can be so demanding that many of us called it...