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NonFiction

Transform Your Sex Writing to Give Characters Great Sex with Five Elements

Many writers cringe at the idea of writing those sexy scenes, but here are five elements to transform your sex writing and give your characters great sex. Most of us have not been educated on sexuality. How could we be good writers or editors of it without that education? I’ve put my sex education and therapy to use in a new way, understanding the meaning of sex fictional characters and helping authors give characters the best sex than can. How We’ve Learned to Write Sex. “I cannot write a sex scene to save my life,” says too many writers. A...

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NonFiction / Twitter Spaces

Move the Sex Talk to Sex Conversations: A Powerful First Step

Sex conversations? Sex talk? What’s in a word or a phrase? For some, those phrases can stop you in your tracks. When you read “sex talk,” did it pull you back to your young self, who was watching a parent struggle to provide you with needed information? Or were you the parent, rubbing your sweaty palms, wishing you were anywhere instead of trying to figure out the right things to say to a child? For those who never experienced comprehensive sex education, sex talk is synonymous with perhaps the ONLY time a parent shared sex info. But as an adult,...

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NonFiction / Twitter Spaces

The Sexuality Space: The Year We Created A Remarkable Community with Passion

The Concept of The Sexuality Space Wow. Has it really been a year since I started The Sexuality Space on Twitter Spaces? Yes, it has. The first Wednesday of May in 2021, I launched my inaugural twitter spaces. I remember how the app didn’t work well.  I was unable to invite speakers. My first event was essentially a monologue from me with friends feeding me questions in my Direct Messages and I answered them. That didn’t deter me. I planned and talked and laughed. It was fun. So much has changed over the year from improvements in the app itself...

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NonFiction / Twitter Spaces

Brian McNaught: My Interview with “The Godfather of Diversity”

Social Audio Connects the World Back in May of 2021, I began my Twitter Spaces platform called The Sexuality Space. There, I provide sexuality information and resources. I interview experts, chat with book authors, and have open topical conversations. I showcase sex-positive perspectives. In this episode, I interview Brian McNaught. Brian is one of my favorite sex educators. While Brian and I met early in our careers, we each moved in different sex education circles for our sexual topics. Brian is most known for his work in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer diversity training. The New York Times dubbed...

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NonFiction

Can you Place Your Sexuality Center Stage for a Minute or Even an Hour for Your Sexual Wellbeing?

Sometimes it is hard to admit we are sexual beings with a need for sexual wellness. Our culture, institutions, family, friends have made us feel like we need to hide that part of us. That makes it difficult for us to take time for our sexual self. Frankly, I’ve had enough. Others have subjected my sexuality career to constructed rules and regulations. They relegated my erotic writing to late-night locations, the back room, and the “shhhh place.” Sex itself takes a back seat to something considered more worthwhile. Sexuality professionals have been expected to step aside or step down for...

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Dr. J.'s News

2021 Another Tough Year Living as a Writing Hermit

Another Covid tough year has passed, and I prevailed. In fact, I kept my head down and churned out a lot of content. I also got new jobs which cause new projects for 2022. I’m so grateful to my fans and followers. You make it all worthwhile. What I missed this year was regular hugs and close, intimate conversations with my friends and family. In between Delta and Omicron, I did visit with my NC author friend, Darryl Bollinger, and hosted the phenomenal Mischa Eliot and Heather Whitaker for a writing retreat. I said Bon Voyage to fellow writer and...

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NonFiction

Women, Let Your Orgasms Surge

I’ve lived with orgasm inequality for my entire life and my forty-five-year professional sexuality career. Back in 1998, Viagra, the little blue pill for erectile dysfunction, hit the market. I remember listening to a sex therapist who had consulted for this product. He talked about the choice they offered him for his work, to be paid cash or in stock. Hindsight says stock, don’t you think? Men’s issues get men results. A New Player Emerges But this year, change is in the air. Will women’s issues get women results? I’m experiencing places where they have. I discovered Vella Bioscience. This...

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Dr. J.'s News

In Conversation with Rose Caraway

In my last post, I shared that I was a new Twitter Spaces Host. This blog post marks my third event. I created a mission statement for my space. My plan is to talk with lots of different people in the world of sexuality. I’m really excited about the new features Twitter has added to Twitter Spaces. When you are on my Twitter feed you can click on the event, see details, to get more information. This is where the scheduling function resides so you can get a thirty-minute reminder before the event starts. You’ll also get a reminder when...

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Dr. J.'s News

It’s Official. I’m a Twitter Spaces Host!

Life in 2021 is gearing up. I have some new and wonderful event launching this week. On Wednesday, May 5, 2021 Noon ET I will host my inaugural Twitter Spaces #TheSexualitySpace. I’ve been writing about the journey on Medium. Check out these articles: As an author, I’m afraid I might become a twitter spaces junkie and Look Out Twitter Spaces because my southern drawl with rock your world. Connecting with folks on social media is a fascinating proposition, and here’s a new tool. It’s called Twitter Spaces. When it arrived, I was first intrigued and then disappointed. It was in...

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NonFiction

2020 in the Rearview Mirror

On the last day of the year, let’s see 2020 in the rearview mirror. Five years ago, Marie Rebelle and Wicked Wednesday hosted my guest post, Tested. It marked the launch of my writing career. I had completed an erotic writing course with Rachel Kramer Bussel, who encouraged our class to hone our writing skills by writing erotic memes. I am good at following directions. After that guest blog, in January 2016, I created my website and began blogging my stories. I’m a creature of habit. Each year, I look back to assess and evaluate my progress, productivity, and lessons...

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Dr. J.'s News

Dr. J.’s Top Ten Most-Read Erotic Stories of 2020

This year Dr. J.’s Top Ten most-read stories span the life of my blog and represent each year I’ve written. I guess the deep dive for stories had to do with the pandemic. Lots of reading to keep us busy and distract us. When I compared it to the Top Ten List of 2019, I was struck that the 10th and 1st position stories were the same. 10 Truck Sex and The Calendar Man tied for the tenth spot. Truck Sex, a nostalgic revisit of sexual firsts in the truck, clocks in TIED for Number 10. Joy and Bubba reclaim...

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Fiction

Dr. J.’s Top 10 Erotic Blog Stories of 2019

Hello Erotica Readers! It’s hard to believe that 2019 closes out this week. I wanted to share my Top 10 Erotic Blog Reads for the year. It amazes me to see what everyone likes. Adventure. Novelty. Settings. Kink. If you missed any of my stories, now is your chance to see the most popular. 10. The Calendar Man It is the first installment of a five-episode story about a kinky firefighter who moved to town and meets someone interesting in yoga class. 9. Working A Slick Connection This is the fourth installment of Bill and Sue’s bathroom shaving adventure. The...

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Fiction / M/F Fiction

A Walled Reunion: An Erotic Short

Leaning against the barn, wearing my ragged jean skirt and old gifted boots, I waited. The scent of dirt, horses, and hay filled the air. Our ritual had been to meet here every Friday at the end of the workday for the hottest sex imaginable. Allen was a creature of habit but was he ten years later? A truck motor echoed in the air as it rumbled over the gravel road. My heart fluttered. As the vehicle came closer, it slowed and stopped within several feet of me. Through the windshield, I saw the face I missed. Allen stared at...

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Dr. J.'s News / NonFiction

Teaching Authors What I Know About Writing Sex

Last year this time I was getting ready to attend my second Florida Writers Association Annual Conference. My editor created two presentations and a workshop. I was excited to see her work and experience her magic and catch up with old friends I’d met the year before. An unexpected request occurred over the conference which finds me here writing this post. The faculty coordinator asked to create some specific workshops about sex for the group this year. It flattered me and terrified me. This group is not focused on sex per se like other presentations have been. But I said...

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Dr. J.'s News

Erotic Anthology Book Release: Chemical [se]X 2

I’m excited to share a book release with wonderful writers. This erotic anthology has been a group publishing effort for Oleander, Mischa and myself, a true labor of love. Thank you to Rachel Kramer Bussel for blurbing our cover! I’m pleased to introduce you to Chemical [se]X 2: just one more.  We hope you enjoy our erotic anthology. Taste the attraction. Again. One hundred percent delicious with zero calories, let yourself be tempted by our chocolate-infused delights. These bite-size erotic treats are guaranteed to satisfy even the most discerning tastes. Best friends become more, beauty is tamed by the beast,...

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Fiction / M/F Fiction

Sounds Sexy, Right? A Writer’s Dream

I think writers are always looking for something to help the creative muse. This story idea came from an overheard conversation, a writer’s dream if you will. I captured it quickly and the mantra stuck in my mind. Sounds sexy, right? The hallway chatter from the other women caught my attention. It was odd because they were never this chatty on a writer’s meeting night. “Why is everyone so buzzed?” “Cora, don’t you read anything we send out?” Lulu glared at me. “It’s our new special event night.”  She shoved a flyer in my hand. “Here.” I stared at it....

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NonFiction

Onstage or Backstage Simple Reasons I Lead with My Big Heart

Friday can be a weird day in a writer’s life. It’s catch-up from the week. Organizing. Listening to pressure washers, blowers, and garbage trucks. That’s my Friday anyway. I get focused! But this week it also reminded me why I lead with a big heart. Most of you know Friday is a social media day for noting #FriendFriday #FollowFriday #FF. My Sister in Smut, Rachel Woe sent out the coolest tweet this morning. You can read it here with replies. Her sentiment is huge. “Y’all make the eroticaverse a better, sexier place with your words and wisdom.” Yes, better. Yes,...

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Blog Tour

Pandora Spocks with Jenny’s Voice

Let me introduce my Wicked Pen colleague, Pandora Spocks and her new release Jenny’s Voice.  Like me, Pandora resides in the sunshine state and we get opportunities to see each other in real life. Besides that, we are redheads together, so I love her new series name, Redheads and Ranchers. But I digress. Let’s hear about Pandora’s new book out on February 12, 2019. Jenny’s Voice is a contemporary erotic romance with a high heat level. What’s The Story About? A traumatized young woman held hostage for years. The rancher who comes to her rescue. The crime boss who will...

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Book Review / Fiction

Book Review: Rachel Kramer Bussel’s Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Vol 4

Rachel Kramer Bussel has done it again. In her newest book, Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 4, she introduces the theme of outsiders and risk, and this collection of diverse erotic stories hits the mark. This themed lens provides us with a unique backdrop and introduces us to ‘every woman.’ Yes, these are the women not marketed by Hollywood or a PR firm. What I like best about this volume is how each story introduces us to characters who push us, the readers, to consider how individual and complex our experience of sex is. Here are several of...

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Fiction / M/F Fiction

Take Me For A Ride

“I have something I want to show you.” I opened the car door and plopped into the passenger seat of John’s truck. “That’s what all the men say.” I waggled my eyebrows. It had been a while since we had truck sex. John looked straight ahead and gripped the steering wheel. “No, seriously, Suz. I want you to see this and give me an opinion.” Intensity flew off John like a Cat 4 hurricane, laced with an unusual side of edgy. “Sure. Show me.” “We have to go to it.” He started the ignition. His nervous energy bounced around the...

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Fiction / M/F Fiction

A Jasmine Bath and You

I missed last week’s post for Masturbation Monday due to sickness. My effort was there, but my body couldn’t get the story finished. This is what I crafted for Adrian Kenny’s picture. I sat on the lumpy mattress to check my messages. After two weeks of hotel rooms, I hit my overwhelmed and tired point. I had to change jobs. Where is George’s nightly text? I scrolled through until I found it. “Is the picture what you wanted?” I typed my reply. “No photo.” George wasn’t forgetful. The text box opened. “Lin, wait.” “You need me here to send a...

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Dr. J.'s News / NonFiction

Life Interrupted

Life gets interrupted with so many things, but we trudge on. Sickness is tricky because it drains you both physically and emotionally. I’m on day 15 and just getting my head above water. I celebrated this Friday alongside my thank you tulips, coffee, and blueberry pie. I threw caution to the wind and enjoyed myself this morning. Everybody gets sick. It was my turn. That’s a risk of travel, and sharing over the holidays. One I will always accept. This ailment is a doozie. But you know what? Life goes on for this writer even from my day bed. I wrote,...

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Blog Tour

Isabel James with Truth Untold

The New Year has arrived and with it, Blog Tours for new book releases. I’m excited to share my friend’s new project. Here is Isabel James. I hope you enjoy this introduction and a peek into this suspense novel. Who is Isabel James? Isabel James is a pseudonym for two authors who collaborated to bring their readers tales of emotional and spiritual discovery in The White Pearl Series. Now, they’re spreading their wings to a different genre. One is an Erotica Author who has achieved Bestseller status a few times with her Club Alpha Cove series, Linzi Basset. She writes...