For any starting point on your sexuality, let’s think about structure. I’ve found the best way to approach this personal learning is to use a holistic sex-positive approach focusing on Body. Mind. Heart. Spirit. If you want to become your best sexual self, you need to learn about yourself within the layers of your sexual self….
Before I tell you the ten things that excited me about my year in the sexual work world, I want to say thank you. Thank you to my readers, fans, supporters, those who inspire, and all folks interested in sexual wellness, erotica, and all things sex. I create content for you to better your life…
Are you looking for sexy holiday gifts this season? I’ve read at least seven curated lists, and I found the following items to be interesting. I put them in six categories: Sensuality, Good Vibes, Kinky You, Fun & Games, Artistic Flair, and Philanthropy. Be true to yourself and your relationship as you explore your choices….
Purple Sex Alignment? What is It? Purple sex alignment is both a process and an outcome. If you’re reading, you are already working a shift in your perspective. You are receptive to hearing something new. It’s like when folks realize they want something different in the bedroom, they explore and read about new topics. I’ve…
Why language matters? Welcome to my world of “scenes with sex,” not “sex scenes.” Did you get it? Do you see or know the distinction? If not, welcome to the mind of a retired sex therapist, college professor of human sexuality, and current erotica and erotic romance writer and editor for Rosy. Join me on…
Moving from a “sex talk” to a “sex conversation” is a new way to think about sharing important sexual information. It takes an open and curious mind to address the crucial aspects of sexual wellness, including pleasure and desire. Communication is hard, and there are ways to have meaningful sex conversations. Broadening your sexuality world…
Pleasure and shame are addressed in a recent movie, in two directions. Good Luck to you, Leo Grande is a movie where characters meet at the intersection of intimacy and sexuality. Both know shame and taboo tempers their pleasure choices. Each person highlights the other as they seek pleasure, delete shame, and provide caring. Middle-Aged…
What is a sex conversation starter? Sometimes people just don’t know how to begin a conversation related to sex. That is so understandable. Those conversations are intimate and vulnerable. We don’t exactly learn conversation skills at school or at home, much less about discussing anything with sexual content. Without formal learning, we use what we…
In writing sex, whether in scenes or threaded throughout your story, to get maximum impact, it takes a type of sex education most people never get. As a writer, you may be a natural-born storyteller and have intuited lots of information in your world about your characters. But what if you also used sex information…
My sex search on Google in preparation for my weekly Twitter Spaces Content in The Sexuality Space provided frustration. I wanted to learn what people want to know about sex. I discovered one interesting article by Dr. Chris Fulton: The Most Frequently Searched Sex Questions in the US. I loved her enthusiasm and contrast to…
Many writers cringe at the idea of writing those sexy scenes, but here are five elements to transform your sex writing and give your characters great sex. Most of us have not been educated on sexuality. How could we be good writers or editors of it without that education? I’ve put my sex education and…
Sex conversations? Sex talk? What’s in a word or a phrase? For some, those phrases can stop you in your tracks. When you read “sex talk,” did it pull you back to your young self, who was watching a parent struggle to provide you with needed information? Or were you the parent, rubbing your sweaty…
The Concept of The Sexuality Space Wow. Has it really been a year since I started The Sexuality Space on Twitter Spaces? Yes, it has. The first Wednesday of May in 2021, I launched my inaugural twitter spaces. I remember how the app didn’t work well. I was unable to invite speakers. My first event…
Social Audio Connects the World Back in May of 2021, I began my Twitter Spaces platform called The Sexuality Space. There, I provide sexuality information and resources. I interview experts, chat with book authors, and have open topical conversations. I showcase sex-positive perspectives. In this episode, I interview Brian McNaught. Brian is one of my…
Sometimes it is hard to admit we are sexual beings with a need for sexual wellness. Our culture, institutions, family, friends have made us feel like we need to hide that part of us. That makes it difficult for us to take time for our sexual self. Frankly, I’ve had enough. Others have subjected my…
Another Covid tough year has passed, and I prevailed. In fact, I kept my head down and churned out a lot of content. I also got new jobs which cause new projects for 2022. I’m so grateful to my fans and followers. You make it all worthwhile. What I missed this year was regular hugs…
I’ve lived with orgasm inequality for my entire life and my forty-five-year professional sexuality career. Back in 1998, Viagra, the little blue pill for erectile dysfunction, hit the market. I remember listening to a sex therapist who had consulted for this product. He talked about the choice they offered him for his work, to be…
In my last post, I shared that I was a new Twitter Spaces Host. This blog post marks my third event. I created a mission statement for my space. My plan is to talk with lots of different people in the world of sexuality. I’m really excited about the new features Twitter has added to…
Life in 2021 is gearing up. I have some new and wonderful event launching this week. On Wednesday, May 5, 2021 Noon ET I will host my inaugural Twitter Spaces #TheSexualitySpace. I’ve been writing about the journey on Medium. Check out these articles: As an author, I’m afraid I might become a twitter spaces junkie…
I love quotes from people who inspire me. Anais Nin hits me on so many levels.
On the last day of the year, let’s see 2020 in the rearview mirror. Five years ago, Marie Rebelle and Wicked Wednesday hosted my guest post, Tested. It marked the launch of my writing career. I had completed an erotic writing course with Rachel Kramer Bussel, who encouraged our class to hone our writing skills…
This year Dr. J.’s Top Ten most-read stories span the life of my blog and represent each year I’ve written. I guess the deep dive for stories had to do with the pandemic. Lots of reading to keep us busy and distract us. When I compared it to the Top Ten List of 2019, I…
Hello Erotica Readers! It’s hard to believe that 2019 closes out this week. I wanted to share my Top 10 Erotic Blog Reads for the year. It amazes me to see what everyone likes. Adventure. Novelty. Settings. Kink. If you missed any of my stories, now is your chance to see the most popular. 10….
Leaning against the barn, wearing my ragged jean skirt and old gifted boots, I waited. The scent of dirt, horses, and hay filled the air. Our ritual had been to meet here every Friday at the end of the workday for the hottest sex imaginable. Allen was a creature of habit but was he ten…
