Another writer’s retreat in the books and we made memories. Sometimes it takes a little time for it to gel. I had hoped to post this last week, but I was still processing it. So many rich thoughts. Some many wonderful connections. And so many words. And sitting in the heart of it all was…
A magic elixir is produced when writers get together. It has a texture like cotton candy. A smell like an English garden in spring or caramel over the sea salt. A look like a Monet painting, hazy with all our energy. A taste of tequila aged in oak barrels. A sound like a guitar riff…
Another Covid tough year has passed, and I prevailed. In fact, I kept my head down and churned out a lot of content. I also got new jobs which cause new projects for 2022. I’m so grateful to my fans and followers. You make it all worthwhile. What I missed this year was regular hugs…
In my last post, I shared that I was a new Twitter Spaces Host. This blog post marks my third event. I created a mission statement for my space. My plan is to talk with lots of different people in the world of sexuality. I’m really excited about the new features Twitter has added to…
Life in 2021 is gearing up. I have some new and wonderful event launching this week. On Wednesday, May 5, 2021 Noon ET I will host my inaugural Twitter Spaces #TheSexualitySpace. I’ve been writing about the journey on Medium. Check out these articles: As an author, I’m afraid I might become a twitter spaces junkie…
This year Dr. J.’s Top Ten most-read stories span the life of my blog and represent each year I’ve written. I guess the deep dive for stories had to do with the pandemic. Lots of reading to keep us busy and distract us. When I compared it to the Top Ten List of 2019, I…
Last year this time I was getting ready to attend my second Florida Writers Association Annual Conference. My editor created two presentations and a workshop. I was excited to see her work and experience her magic and catch up with old friends I’d met the year before. An unexpected request occurred over the conference which…
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I’m excited to share a book release with wonderful writers. This erotic anthology has been a group publishing effort for Oleander, Mischa and myself, a true labor of love. Thank you to Rachel Kramer Bussel for blurbing our cover! I’m pleased to introduce you to Chemical [se]X 2: just one more. We hope you enjoy…
Life gets interrupted with so many things, but we trudge on. Sickness is tricky because it drains you both physically and emotionally. I’m on day 15 and just getting my head above water. I celebrated this Friday alongside my thank you tulips, coffee, and blueberry pie. I threw caution to the wind and enjoyed myself this…
I started my 2018 year-i- review in Florida, wrote more in North Carolina, created the picture in Georgia and finished it at my desk at home. It’s an example of my life this year, all over the place. It’s important for me to look back at where I have come since December 29, 2015, when…
I’m a little behind in my weekly sexuality blog. Usually, when that happens, it is because I’m processing something. So, what exactly is on my mind? It turns out it’s about sex scenes and the crossroads intersection of Dr. J. sex therapist/sex educator with Dr. J. Erotica writer. MY WRITER’S LIFE The last several weeks…
Remember when you were a kid and during the first week back at school you told everyone what you did for summer vacation. That’s how I felt about returning home this summer, but I held onto it for a while, savoring all the goodness I received. For me, this summer’s trip was about location as writer…
There will be a break this week from the Hiking Story Series. I’m preparing for a vacation and well, you all know it’s hard to get every task completed. I’m headed to cooler weather to some locations where creative people worked and I’m looking forward to sitting in their places and brainstorming new writing ideas. An…
My smutty sisters and I did a thing. Actually, we did several things. If you follow me, you know I am, as Mischa Eliot framed it, “in a triad with her and Oleander Plume.” The threesome generates massive energy and smut filled power. And with our triangle, we brewed up a Pleasure Platform, a podcast,…
There are four of us. An accountant who lives with a thriller writer and a lawyer tied to me, the erotica writer. Sounds like an exciting crew, right? Writers connect, and we have. This season, we shared our new houses with each other. We joke that each couple has a beach house and a mountain…
Most folks never know what goes on behind the life’s curtain of a writer. Here are events that have happened in my life over the last two weeks. Writers by the Sea-My Local FWA Chapter For our March meeting, I shared the stage with Mark Ezra Stokes as we presented The Author’s Digital Footprint. We…
It has been one month since I posted a blog. There has been a lot happening in my life. In the first two weeks of February, I prepared for my guests who visited the last two weeks of February. My focus for the first two weeks of March was dedicated to my root canal. I…
I enjoy week’s where I collaborate with other writers. This week I had three such adventures. First, Nick Tanek asked me to suggest authors who would answer questions about BDSM erotica. I looked to my Sister in Smut, Mischa Eliot, and my Wicked Pens Colleague, Nia Farrell for their specific thoughts. What I appreciate about…
My 2018 has started out on a roll. Here at the end of the week, I have several new things going on and I wanted to share. Check out the author, Nicholas Tanek‘s work. He and I are Twitter friends. I made a contribution to his blog. THE HEALING POWER OF KINK by Nicholas Tanek…
Last Saturday night, I took part in a wild interview for Consensually Speaking with Gio. My Sisters in Smut, Mischa Eliot, Oleander Plume shined. And at the end, we all made parting comments. I said, “I have a pleasure platform, and I’m going to use it.” Did I issue an imperative for myself? What did…
Last week I was a guest on the Rob and Slim Show. We had thirty minutes of sexy repartee about my sex therapy world, online dating, and being sex-positive. Ending the interview, I read an excerpt from my story “Infused Leather” from Best Women’s Erotica of the Year Volume 3, published by Cleis Press and…
I write this post sitting at my childhood dining room table. This month has been a bittersweet time for me. I have lost two family members and supported another during an emergency surgery. Writing has not been my number one focus for December, but I wanted to take this time to make an abbreviated update…
I drove through a forest of dense hardwoods, down a two-rut road to reach my destination on the peninsula’s end. The shimmering lake waters greeted me. I pictured my friends, Heather and Darryl sitting inside the cabin working away. They had arrived two hours before me, and as I drove, I felt their writing energy…
“Hi. My name is Dr. J. I am an erotica writer.” Your turn. As an experiment, insert your name and make that statement to someone. Did you hesitate? What was your body response? What was their body response? What did the person say to you? If your experience was like mine, you received an instant…
