The Way to Sensational Sex is with Eight Key Elements

If sensational sex is what you are looking for, you’ve come to the right place. Because we don’t get comprehensive sex education, most people believe our bodies will just know what to do for physical pleasure. The reality is there are many aspects at play that make sex sensational. My sex therapy mentor, David Schnarch, used to say that sex is a learned skill and an acquired taste. So, looking at the eight elements for sensational sex from research shows us we have to be an active and communicative partner to have that great sex.

If you are an author, you’ve come to the right place for your characters. According to AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Joan Sughrue, with my work, you’ll also learn a lot about yourself. What we learn about ourselves and sexuality can also be embedded in the characters we create, highlighting the holistic nature of sexuality and layered in writing.

The research of Peggy Kleinplatz and Dan Menard in their book Magnificent Sex identified eight key elements that people report as giving them extraordinary sex. I’ve outlined their work below.

Sensational Sex Elements

Be in the present moment in your body. Body Awareness is obtained when you are in the moment. It gives you information that you will reflect on as well as share.

Make a connection with your partner. If you are in partnered sex, then being with them as yourself, working to align and harmonize.

Use active listening. When there is attending behavior, you create a foundation of mutual trust and respect. With this foundation, profound sexual experiences can occur.

Communicate with empathy. As you proceed with clear communication, weave in empathy to build mutual understanding as you discuss sex openly.

Show your authentic self. Embrace all of who you are so that you are unrestrained with your sexual activities and connections.

Be vulnerable in front of another. When you step into your vulnerability and show that to another during sex, it sets the stage for extraordinary sex.

Continue self-exploration and playfulness. Risk-taking continues in all relationships, but especially in sex—couch in sex exploration, enjoyment, and broadening your personal limits through adult play.

Use introspection to elevate your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects. Elevate the elements that make up your body and reflect on your experiences. Align with yourself in all the elements and sit with your introspection to grow, affirm, and bring about transformative changes in yourself. Using this during sexual activity can make it a transcendent experience.

Takeaways

Whether you want great sex for your characters or yourself, you have a foundation. If you are an author looking to give your characters the best sex they can have, you now have a target to aim for with the elements listed here.

As a sexual being yourself, you too can reach the stars and have magnificent sex with these ideas in your sexual play.

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