How to Journal and Improve Your Sexuality—the Purple Way

Many people wonder how to journal to improve their sexuality. As I created a journal template to help women find their own path, I began my purple sex journey. That voyage helped me see that journaling is a path to discovering your sexual self. For each of us, that journey is to find our unique wonder and authentic sexual self.

A journaling method captures your movement and growth as you explore. It provides a place to name who you are. But I know you are saying, “That takes time. Why and how should I journal to discover my purple sexual self?”

Let’s lay out why journaling is helpful for your sexual wellness and the discovery of your purple sexuality.

Most people get nervous when they step into the unknown. For many, their sexuality is a vast unknown because we aren’t educated about it. Over the years, I have seen sex education and opportunities for awareness be beautiful options for calming nerves. As I created the Purple Sex Journal, I thought about how I could facilitate movement beyond nervousness. I came up with a guided plan, and it embodies journaling.

Here are reasons why journaling is a helpful endeavor for your sexual wellness.

How to Journal for Self-Reflection and Awareness

To journal is to make space for introspection. This is because you create the time to explore the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of your sexual wellness. When you collect your thoughts and ideas about sexuality and commit them to pen and paper, you acknowledge that sexuality is an important aspect of you.

After writing, when you read your words, you will understand who you are as a sexual person, what you like, and where your boundaries stop and start. As you capture ideas and thoughts of your sexual self, you set the stage for better communication and choices that fit you and your sexuality.

Journaling Can Help You Identify Patterns

Patterns of how you act, think, or feel about your sexuality may emerge. Through sexual examples important enough for you to write in a journal, you might spot valuable insights. You may see themes, situations, or emotions that positively or negatively affect your sexual well-being. You make this part of your new process because the awareness enables you to recognize potential obstacles or areas for growth. Taking time for yourself gives you the power to make changes and find the resources you need.

Emotional Processing and Sexual Healing

In the Purple Sex paradigm, we work toward balancing the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of our sexual selves. One focus of sexual wellness is understanding the intertwined nature of our feelings and many components or elements of sexuality. Journaling is a private way to express emotions about sexuality.

Writing about your feelings, fears, and insecurities can help you sort out your complex emotions and improve your relationship with your sexual self.

Personal Accountability for Your Sexuality

Our lives get busy, and sexuality can take a back seat in our worlds. Journaling allows you to track your progress toward sexual wellness and set goals if you want. You can break them down into actionable steps by defining specific objectives, such as improving communication, exploring new experiences, or addressing concerns.

You may also want to break them down into topic areas and prioritize them. I focus on Self-Intimacy, Sensuality, Fantasy, Sexual Behaviors, Gender, Sexual Orientation, Pleasure, Body Image and Desire. You may find these categories helpful, too.

Regularly journaling about your progress helps you stay accountable, decide what you want to work on next, celebrate achievements, and decide how to continue on your sexual path of discovery.

How to Journal for the Enhancement Tool of Self-Communication

We rarely get the message to take care of ourselves and set time aside to talk to ourselves about sexuality for health and understanding. Journaling is a ritual that provides much for you, the individual, and then a partner when and if you are ready to share.

Journaling lets you see your priorities and focus on their meanings in a low-pressure environment. By writing out your thoughts, desires, and concerns, you show yourself that sexuality is important to you. You clarify your intentions and explore different ways to express yourself across your sexuality continuum. Journaling can be a reference for discussions with your partner.

Remember, journaling is a personal journey. Your process makes up the intimate sexuality owner’s manual for you.

Takeaways

Takeaway 1: Journaling promotes self-reflection, awareness, and self-acceptance on your sexual journey. Examining your thoughts, emotions, desires, and boundaries can help you better understand your sexuality.

Takeaway 2: Journaling helps identify patterns that affect your sexual well-being. Documenting sexual experiences and emotions can help you identify your patterns of good and bad outcomes. This awareness helps you make positive changes.

Takeaway 3: Journaling facilitates emotional processing, healing, and personal accountability. It provides a safe and private space to express and process your emotions related to past, present, or future sexual experiences or challenges. By untangling complex emotions, you can promote healing and develop a healthier relationship with your sexual self. Journaling encourages communication with yourself and potential partners.

Remember, your journaling practice is unique to you, like purple sex, serving as an intimate guidebook for your own sexual exploration and growth.

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